How do you make your child manage his/her time?
Discipline is the key
What do you do when you wake up in the morning? Brush, clean up, and get to your daily chores. Yes, that is the daily routine. That’s our daily morning routine or we can call it our discipline in starting our day. It gets as busy as it can. Even our children require a set schedule or routine in their lives. Because life without discipline is like life without any direction, to teach them good discipline, they must follow a pattern. Children take after their elders. Therefore, you should set an example so that they can follow. Children learn by watching you, not by reading somewhere about it.
Here are some recommendations you can use to establish a daily schedule that will eventually teach your children how to be disciplined, insha'Allah!
Time-management
Managing your time well will lessen your stress and that of your kids. Teach your children to be disciplined, it will help you and them in the long run.
We become organized when we follow a set of rules every day without waiving them.
Here is some advice you can give your kids:
- Freshen up as soon as they wake up, that way you don't have to be at the back of them the other half of the day.
- Have family time at the breakfast table. Eat together. A family that eats together lives together. Remind your children to follow Sunnah while eating. And say Bismillah before they start to eat. Breakfast timing should not exceed 9.00 A.M (during their holidays). That means making a habit of waking up early no matter if it is a Sunday!
- Kids like to switch ON the TV, mobile, or a tab, as soon as they are free. Do not engage them, just because you will be free for a couple of hours. TV(mobile, tab) time is just for leisure, let them understand that. It is not important.
- Setting screen time is the most crucial thing you should be doing. Only 2hrs a day. Let them decide how to split that 2 hrs. It always helps to give them some power. They don't sense any pressure.
- Encourage your children to talk to and interact with your neighbors. Don't isolate them. Remember, humans, are social animals. Teach them to socialize! Don't forget to set them a TIME for it!
- Children must complete their homework. However, avoid drawing attention to yourself by being a bad, irate parent. They come home after a long day. Let them relax. Give them an hour's break. Then sit with them for homework. Yes, that’s right. Sit with them, but don't help them with their homework unless they don't understand. This instills in them the ability to be self-sufficient while also knowing when to ask for assistance.
- If they have a lot of homework in a day, tell them to set a deadline to complete each subject and try finishing it by that set deadline. This builds focus in kids.
- Make your kids offer salah with you. Let them take a break from their homework and offer salah and read Quran for at least 10 minutes. This teaches them to multi-task and also relaxes them from their homework tensions.
- As soon as they finish their homework, let them play. Playtime should be not more than 2 hours a day. Let them know that. Trust us, they will follow everything you say if you let them play.
- Set a time for dinner, and always try to feed them at that particular time. Sleep time is as important as wake-up time. Everybody needs good sleep. Don't let them stay up late. Set a reminder for them to perform Wudhu(Ablution) before sleeping until they are habituated to it. Put them to sleep on a set routine. This will calm their active minds, which constantly seek out new things to discover.
- Never criticize your kids for being behind their schedule. Discipline in life comes with practice. And it is a constant endeavor from both the parent and the child to work towards it.
Insha'Allah, we pray that you will implement all or at least some of the advice we have given you to help you manage your child's time.
Schedule a meeting with us to understand your child's needs
